Did you know there are no studies or science behind the stages of grief? Again it is the brainwashing of the masses. I don’t think there is one adult alive who did not hear about grief stages, but it is nothing but one person’s opinion. Back in the ’70s, some women whom I will not promote her name created this theory and brought it to an extensive meeting of her peers, and it took off.s The woman who created this hogwash based upon her personal experience even stated that the stages didn’t all happen and not necessarily in order, if at all.
There was no science or studies behind this theory, but it sure did sound good. Her peers accepted it, and off it went to become almost a fact. This was in the beginning stages of the death and dying business that was about to explode. Now we are in the information age, and we can not find the data to back this up; therefore, we declare this all hogwash.
What I can tell you is there are phases or periods. Yes, we will call them phases to distinguish from the non-sense of five stages. There very well could be an anger phase, and I am in it today, that is for sure. When we lose someone, anything can happen, and it is fair game for all emotions. There is no stages perse. You can be in denial, be angry and severely depressed and sad all at the same time, and ten minutes later, you go on to something else. There is no system or stages that govern what you will do, how you will feel, or when you will do it. Sometimes it will just be pure chaos. Today I am angry like never before, but then I suddenly burst into tears before I went into work mode to pretend like everything is fine and avoid my pain.
Back in the ’70s, some women whom I will not promote her name created this theory and brought it to an extensive meeting of her peers, and it took off. There was no science or studies, but it sure did sound good. This readily accepted nonsense was during the beginning stages of the death and dying business about to explode.
There is no stages perse. You can be in denial, be angry and severely depressed and sad all at the same time, and ten minutes later, you go on to something else. There is no system or stages that govern what you will do, how you will feel, or when you will do it.
There is only one rule that holds true when it comes to grief. There are no rules.
It is a complex process that can swirl around in many different directions. The only thing we can say is that it is okay to do whatever it is you are doing.
There is only one rule that holds true when it comes to grief. There are no rules.
It is a complex process that can swirl around in many different directions. The only thing we can say is that it is okay to do whatever it is you are doing.